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The False ego versus the true self

Written by Nita Ro Hayes

The Ego

You may be questioning what exactly is the ego. In Latin the word ego means "I". Humans have three significant elements that represent them as beings.  These three structures are the ego, id, and superego. You as a human use these three to interact with the world around you. Knowing the characteristics of each will help you navigate through life with more peace instead of internal conflict. The ego can create a pleasant experience, or a catastrophic one depending on its mood. At times the ego can be very volatile and manipulative.  In these moments you must be aware of the signals the ego sends, and in doing so, you will become more in control of the thoughts that sabotage you. In psychoanalysis, Sigmund Freud, explains the ego, id,  and superego in its entirety. Below, are explanations of all three. 

Id

Let's just describe the id as a spoiled brat always wanting their way. The id relies on instincts instead of logic. Its instinctual behavior can cause issues when it doesn't depend on the superego to guide its impulses. Freud believed the id was in control of the human desire for sexual gratification. He also believed id was the driving force for aggression in humans. If driven by sex and aggression, one would believe that would invoke bad behavior. This is a dilemma that most humans have on a daily. How to determine and decipher between right and wrong, and how can one still get what they desire and still be in the guidelines of the moral code? There is so much when discussing the id. Its behavior can not always be predicted due to its spontaneity. The id can have an impulse for sex, then have the urge to visit the museum of art, then suddenly feel the need to go  run and hide for survival. Its stance can be at times erratic, depending on the discipline, or lack there of in each individual. This is the fascination of the id. 

Superego

Most humans come equipped with a conscience. This is what some would call the superego. It's the morality of your essence. It is the voice of reason, and at times it can cause guilt and shame due to its ridiculing nature. There are two components when dealing with the superego. Both are extreme and that is the main reason why the ego must play its part as the mediator. It mediates between the id, superego, as well as refereeing between the superego and your ideal self. 


The ideal self is as it sounds. It's the ultimate version of you. You as the most improved version of you. It's your aspirations, mannerisms, and character. It's a false perfectionist. It's imagery of how you are supposed to be. It's the expectations of your parents, teachers, religious leaders, society,  and family that have been instilled in you. The ideal self is usually formed during childhood. These are the elements of your mind. So, the need for mental awareness is a must due to mental exhaustion and  self-sabotaging thoughts. 


The ego plays a very important part when it comes to our sanity; however, it still must be controlled by the spirit because without divine guidance, the inner turmoil that you can endure would be too much for any human being to bare.  

False Ego versus true soul

False Ego

Below is a list of traits that the false ego has. See if you see your ego on the list.


  • Thinks in "Me"
  • Always complaining
  • Egoism
  • In self-denial
  • Feels alone in the world
  • Focuses on the past and future
  • Is ruled by time
  • A victim mentality
  • Jealous
  • Loves to blame others
  • Prideful
  • Loves Power
  • Doesn't mind war
  • cold nature
  • hostility
  • Resentment
  • Anger issues
  • Intolerance
  • Can feel superior or inferior to others
  • Can be complex 
  • Intellectual
  • Needs validation
  • Likes attention
  • Can take things to seriously including oneself
  • Judgmental

True Soul

Below is a list of traits of your true self. I am sure you can find  yourself on the list.


  • Feels relax and grateful in the presence of the Divine
  • Has a forgiving heart
  • Takes responsibilities of ones own actions. 
  • Thinks in terms of "We"
  • Thinks about community and unity
  • Friendly
  • Happy
  • Humble
  • Peaceful
  • Loving
  • Understanding
  • Spiritual
  • Sympathizing
  • Wise beyond years
  • Simplistic
  • Calm
  • Focuses on the now
  • Trusts their intuition
  • Has the ability to laugh at oneself
  • Still possesses a sense of innocents
  • Is accepting of others
  • Understands the Divine and them are one
  • Trusts the process and the flow of life
  • Comfortable being in the presence of oneself
  • Does things to elevate one's consciousness

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